Don’t Use Absolute Statements In Your Relationship

I am so guilty of this one. It’s something I’m actively trying to work on. However, using absolute statements in your relationship can cause many issues.

What are absolute statements?

“You NEVER Do ______”

“You always do _____”.

Most of the time, these are negative things. We rarely hear these things in a positive light. There wouldn’t be anything wrong with it if you use them only in positive instances. As you could say to your partner, you’re always there for me; you always know what I need. You always take care of the family. Of course, this may not be fully accurate. But it at least lets your partner know you greatly appreciate their efforts.

They feel unappreciated.

Usually, in these moments, when you say, you never do blank. It’s an emotionally charged situation. And all that person will hear is when you say you never or always. Is “Hey, all of the times that you have done that, I haven’t even acknowledged or paid any attention to it because I only care about all the times you failed to do those things.”

It makes the person feel unappreciated. It makes them not even want to change anything or improve. Because they aren’t getting credit for when they do those things. They say you need more positive —…